Help! Are we too dependent on technology to discipline our kids???
What happened to good ol' obedience where kids will just obey the parents and do as they are told? It seems that with my kids, everything has to be rewarded with some 'games' time...then only they will listen or adhere to me. During my time, my parents didn't need all this gadgets to make me listen to them. I respected them...that is why I obeyed them. It seems for my kids,they only listen to 2 things... ROTAN and 'play ipad'!!!
For Ally to sit on the jamban...she gets ipad after that. For Ryan to sit down quietly and cut his hair...he gets to play Papa's phone. For Ally to get out of the bath tub...she gets ipad. For Ryan to do his homework and revision...he gets ipad after that. And the list goes on and on.
Teruk, isn't it??? How far can this carry on?
17th Jan 2012-
2 days after I wrote this post...I decided to totally disallow the kids to play Ipad...more to tone down the excitement of playing it. So for 2 whole days (entire weekend)...the kids understood that there would be no Ipad at home. Ally would ask occasionally...but we just told her...no ipad today. And she was fine with it (surprisingly). The only time they played with a gadget was at the restaurant or at my dad's house. It was good actually having no distraction of any gadgets at home. We could concentrate on more things...like reading books, doing crafts and improving Ryan's fine motor skills and the kids just playing with each other.
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Agree with you wholeheartedly. I remember in Singapore during CNY last year, we were having dinner in a restaurant and the table next to ours had at least 5 kids on it and whilst waiting for their food, each kid had a gadget in their hand. No one was talking to each other. How tragic. Closer to home, I try to resist giving the kids ipad every day unless (like you say) very good behavior (not something they hv to do anyway) and also ipad/tv is my last resort babysitter. : )
For one-off events like hair cuts, offering an incentive is fine. Or to encourage new behaviour like the toilet training for Ally. But routine tasks shouldn't involve too much drama. When Jo Ern insists on staying in the bath-tub, hubby just grabs her out anyway. She doesn't cry long or at all coz she knows Papa won't entertain one! For Ryan's homework, maybe just tell him teacher will scold and let that be the 'stick'?
Go cold turkey :) better now than never!
Yupe. The age of gadgets and technology. We have an iPad for Ryan when he was admitted into hospital last month but now that he is out, our condition for him to play is only when we are waiting for food or after finishing his food when we are eating out. Totally NO iPad at home. I don't mind him jumping around like a monkey because I think it is healthier than playing the iPad. So far so good.
My girl will get a lollipop after a hair cut.she will do anything for a lolli. Even iPad also cannot compete. Hehe cheap cheap treat :)
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